One Thing You're Allowed to Want This Week
Permission to name ONE thing you want but have been dismissing
This is the week everyone asks what Mom wants. But here’s the question nobody asks: Do you even let yourself answer honestly?
I’m going to give you an assignment this week. And it’s the simplest and hardest thing you’ll do.
I want you to name one thing you want.
Not something you think you should want. Not something that’s practical or responsible or on your five-year plan. Just one thing that, when you imagine it, makes you feel a little bit more alive.
It could be:
A morning to yourself (without guilt)
A skill you’ve wanted to learn (but told yourself you were too old/busy/untalented)
A conversation you’ve been avoiding (because you’re terrified of what you might ask for)
A rest that actually feels like rest (not just checking off a task)
An experience that makes you feel beautiful or brave
Time to make something — art, music, a garden, a life that feels like yours
Not all of those will resonate. That’s fine. Find the one that does.
Now here’s the important part: Say it out loud.
Not in your head. Say it with your voice. “I want ______.”
You might feel ridiculous. You might feel selfish. You might feel like you’re asking for too much. That’s the guilt talking. That’s the old permission structure. Say it anyway.
I want this. This is what I want.
You don’t have to earn it. You don’t have to deserve it. You don’t have to do anything. You just get to want it.
And then — this is key — you get to let yourself know that you want it.
I’m not asking you to completely restructure your life this week. I’m not asking you to make it happen overnight. I’m just asking you to name it. To claim it. To stop pretending you don’t want something you actually want.
Because here’s what I’ve learned: You cannot build a life you want if you won’t even admit to yourself what you want.
The guilt will try to convince you that naming a desire is the same as being selfish. That saying “I want” means someone else loses. That your desires are inconvenient. That you should keep wanting nothing and be grateful.
But naming a desire isn’t the same as demanding someone else sacrifice for you. It’s just you getting to know yourself better. It’s you saying: “This matters to me.”
And that matters.
Here's something else I want you to sit with: gratitude and desire aren't opposites. You can be deeply thankful for what you have and want more. In fact, the women I know who practice gratitude most honestly are the ones who also give themselves permission to want. Gratitude without desire is just settling. Desire without gratitude is just striving. But together? That's a woman who knows her life is good and believes it can be even better.
So this week, find that one thing. Say it out loud. Write it down if you need to. Sit with it — outside if you can. Something about fresh air and open sky makes the truth come easier. Let yourself feel whatever comes up — guilt, hope, fear, longing. All of it is allowed.
You’re not breaking anything by wanting more. You’re building something: a relationship with your own life that’s actually honest.
Start there.
And if you tried and nothing came? If you sat with the question and the answer wasn't there yet? That's not failure. That's the beginning. Some women have been disconnected from their own desires for so long that the signal needs time to come back. Stay open. The wanting is in there — it might just need a little more quiet before it speaks.
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"You cannot build a life you want if you won't even admit to yourself what you want. Name it. Just name it."
Pivot Prompt: What's one thing you want that you haven't said out loud? Try saying it this week.
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